Kev’s condition has deteriorated a bit in the last couple days. He is essentially unresponsive now, but at least he has no pain or discomfort. He is receiving round-the-clock scheduled doses of pain and anti-anxiety meds. I’m working with Kev’s Drs to get him transferred back home with Hospice. They believe that he is holding on for something and have encouraged us to say our good-byes and let him know it’s OK to move on. They think relocating him home will provide a familiar comfort that will allow him leave us behind. The main obstacle is that home hospice does not normally work with IV drugs. We are currently trying to figure out if an adequate alternative means of transfer exists or if we can just break the rules. Kev was never one for rules so you know which one I'm hoping for.
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I've got no words to match the gravity of the situation nor the greatness of the people (father, family and friends alike) who find themselves in it. Please accept my most sincere sympathies even though I know it's not enough. If there is anything I can do from out here in California please do not hesitate to ask.
- Chris
From folks in Washington who worked with Kevin at Boeing - We would like to send you folks a care package. What address should we mail it to?
Please email me at donald.g.holt@boeing.com or leave a message at 425-347-1326.
Hello Deneen,
What can anyone say at this point? I hope for the best for you, your kids, and your families.
Cancer is just an awful disease.
Thanks.
Cleave
Deneen,
From another one of those old time C-17 Guys. I had the fortune to work with Kevin on the C-17 Crew Door redesign. Kevin is one of the brightest engineers I have had the fortune to work with. He is one of those guys that you thank your stars that you got on a team with him. God Bless and keep moving forward!
Pat Maloney
Deneen,
I have tried to let everyone I know who know Kevin about his condition. I have asked everyone to pray for him and for you and the kids. GBY. Hope to see you Saturday for the cleanup.
Masood A Haque.
Hello Deneen,
I’m so sorry to hear about Kevin’s deteriorating condition. I know these are very hard times. You and Kevin are such nice people. After reading your blog, I was flooded with memories of all the hard work, good times and laughter you, Kevin and I shared so long ago. You are right, Kevin did things his own way and was never one for rules. I hope the home care will do him some good. Kevin has great inner strength. I believe it is this inner strength which allowed him to fight his sickness for such a long time. LaShawn and I will keep you and Kevin in my thoughts and prayers.
Leland
Deneen, Please tell Kev that I will always cherish our many adventures together – that when I think of the period of time from our CU days until I moved away from S CA in 1989, almost all the best memories involved Kev – he has always been the best guy to just hang around with, whether on a road-trip to the desert or sitting in his living room. He has a unique, free-spirited approach to life that I have never experienced from anyone else. I always admired that he (and you) were so unselfish to start a family at an early age. That your children are wonderful and his spirit will always be present in them. I am sad that Shell and I didn’t have children at the same time as you because we could have shared so many more adventures together. I am sad that I haven’t spent more time with Kev since you moved down to Texas. I will never forget all of us (Phil + your family) playing cards on Kev’s bed after he was paralyzed and that for certain moments it was as if nothing had changed. Tell Kev I want him to send us a sign that his spirit is alive even if his body is no longer.
Love and peace,
Ken
Hello Deneen,
We are so sorry to learn about Kevin's condition.
I am filled with memories of the great things Kevin contributed to the C-17 and the wild things he would do during party time, too. He was absolutely the best.
Our thoughts and prayers to all of you.
Dan and Fumi
It has always been said that the true testament of a persons wealth is how many friends he has. Kevin enriched my life and I saw for myself and through these posts how he has done the same for so many others. It was his sense of adventure and gusto for life that encouraged me to try many things (skiing, rock climbing, Jeeping, Boulder, and California) that I likely would have missed out on without Kevin saying "Come on, I'll help you. Follow me."
I like to think that this journey Kevin is about to take is another example of that. Kevin being Kevin and trail-blazing again for all of us that were fortunate enough to know him. I know we don't want him to do it, but Kevin always had his own drummer(I mean really, who else would drive a purple Gremlin!), and once you were his friend he would do anything for you.
So Deneen, Kelden, and Nick let me just add my name to the long list of friends of your husband and father, and tell you what an exceptional man he is, how he helped make become the man I am, and how much I will miss him.
And Kevin, thanks for being my friend.
Keith Tucker
Words seem hollow at this moment. I am completely blown away by this website and what you have gone through in the last few years and especially in the last month. I wish that I lived closer so that I could have gotten to know my cousin and his AMAZING family. I can see from the posts of his generous and loving friends how much our side of the family has missed by being separated by such a long distance.
I was discussing perspective today and suddenly, Meghan's challenges pale in comparison to what your family is going through. They say that God only gives you what you can handle. I have never found that comforting - I'd gladly trade my strength for an easy road. I instead prefer to think that He gives us the strength to survive. I can see that Kevin was a great man who walked his difficult road with love, a spirit of adventure, and humor.
Kevin and his precious family are in my thoughts and prayers. May you all be blessed by God's grace during these difficult times.
Patsy (Pehr) Fay
Kevin & Deneen,
We are so saddened to hear about Kevin's condition. I've been reading all the blogs & the names & faces come back to me like yesterday when we all worked on the C-17 ramp. I remember Kevin's athleticism playing p/u b-ball games, skiing at Mammoth, & board sailing at Belmont Shores. How I really miss those times. It was great to see you guys last time you visited Hawaii... Deneen, give Kevin & the kids a big hug for us & God bless you.
Gilbert & Karla
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